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“We are sleepwalking into despair”


Captain Bob had overheard our conversation and came over to share his experiences building Kalea in Tahiti over a period of four years with the help of some locals.


His life as a general contractor in Florida before the novel coronavirus pandemic economic shutdown was financially rewarding, but very isolating. He was going down that path of more and more communication with clients and subcontractors being done via electronic means.


He only rediscovered the joys of personal connections and shoulder-to-shoulder work when he took on the four-year boat building project.


The friendships and relationships he made during that project were far richer and more rewarding than any he had made during the last decade of his life as a contractor.


He had forgotten how wonderful it is to be connected into a local community, a circle of belonging, where there is no shortage of people happy to help in times of need.


I replied,


“It seems to me that we are losing social skills, human interaction skills, how to read a person’s mood, how to read body language. People are having difficulty being patient, waiting for their moment to make a point. I think this is due to obsessive use of electronic gadgetry and the enormous hours of screen time that we have become addicted to. Too much technology dehumanizes and distances us and displaces what should be a very, very important part of community life and living together in healthy, thriving communities.”


Lua expressed her opinion that on the mainland, we have a generation bloated with trivial information and starving for wisdom.


Smartphones offer fabulous easy access to knowledge, but these same technologies are also seducing us away from moments of solitude and the ‘still point’ that helps reconnect us with our true feelings and our deep intuition — the seat of our wisdom.


Fast and furious has been the rise and impact of social media in our lives. And trending quite neatly right along with the latest viral videos and newsworthy Twitter tantrums is the rise in stress-related diseases and clinical depression rates.


We are becoming unconscious slaves to addictive, shallow, soul-deadening digital lifestyles, she lamented.


We are sleepwalking into despair from several artificial and destructive divisions that we have unwittingly created for ourselves.


We have an ecological divide — a disconnect between self and Nature, resulting in a disconnect from the healing power of the natural world and from the interwoven mesh of relational becoming that characterizes all other life on this planet. 


We have a social divide — a disconnect between self and other, resulting in extreme economic and social inequalities that are getting worse and worse from an unraveling unsustainable virtual-wealth economy.


And we have a spiritual divide — a disconnect between social/outer self and spiritual/inner self, which has resulted in suicides in recent years taking more lives than war, murder, and natural disasters combined.

But Lua also sensed an emerging ecological mindfulness that was beginning to break down these self-defeating divisions. The root problem was not that difficult to diagnose, after all.


And all that was needed to fix it was a simple shift in consciousness: from ego — to eco.

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