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Be the Dolphin

“When you control your breathing, you control your mind”

Bob froze and darted his eyes in my direction.


“What the heck is she talking about, Rico? I'm breathing just fine.”


He was staring at me in obvious bewilderment.


“I don’t know. You don’t look any shade of blue to me. Though I do sense you are full of brown sometimes.”


After her giggling subsided, Lua said,


“You know, Mister Bob, a marvelous way to ease tension and stress and deal with moments of emotional pain and anxiety is with conscious long, slow, deep nasal breathing. Proper breathing means breathing through your nose, not your mouth, to get the most benefit from the air your breathe in.”


With each ocean wave that passes underneath Kalea’s hulls while moored in the lagoon, her stillness gets disturbed, Lua explained. In a very similar way, a roiling complex of thoughts, feelings, memories, and emotions come and go, rise and fall in our minds, in an endless stream, all day long.


Lua told us that these random mental and emotional fluctuations can be quite disruptive to our sense of well-being and to our relationships with others. But conscious controlled slow breathing can be a wonderful mood stabilizer.


“I think it would be helpful for you to have a more conscious relationship with your breath, Mister Bob. Throughout the day, be more mindful of your breathing. Slow it down. We all tend to breathe too fast, you know. Think of quality breathing like rowing a boat with great skill and finesse — long, slow. rhythmic, and steady strokes are by far the most efficient, graceful, and sustainable way to go than a zillion short and stilted strokes.”




Most people assume that we breathe with our lungs alone, Lua continued; but breathing is actually done by the whole body. The lungs play a relatively passive role in the whole process. As the diaphragm contracts, the volume of the thoracic cavity increases, creating a negative pressure there, which draws air into the lungs.


Proper breathing actually involves the muscles of the head, neck, thorax and abdomen. Chronic tension in any part of the body's musculature interferes with proper breathing, which interferes with our feelings of well-being.


Everyday breathing is one of the basic pleasures of being alive and the one that is taken for granted more than any other. At its most basic level, the simple act of breathing provides the oxygen for the metabolic processes — it literally fuels the fires of life.


Lua explained that no matter what we eat, how much we exercise, how good are inherited genes are, how slim, young, or wise we may be — if is all for naught if we are not breathing correctly. Proper breathing is an essential pillar in our physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual health.


Notice how the depth of our breathing varies with emotional states. Breathing naturally becomes shallower when we are frightened, anxious, or stressed. And this means less oxygen enters the bloodstream. Breathing deepens with relaxation, pleasure, and sleep.

The breathing rate is higher in infants and in states of excitation and lower in sleep and in depressed persons.


We live immersed in a fluid, she noted — just like fish in the sea — at the bottom of an ocean of air. By our breathing we are attuned and intimately connected to our surroundings. If we inhibit our breathing, even mildly, we isolate ourselves from the medium in which we exist. Perhaps that is why breath has a strong connection with spirit or soul.



Chef Lua was a big fan of Asian cuisine and had learned a good deal about Eastern cultures and philosophies while pursuing her passion for the culinary arts:


“Did you know that in all Oriental and mystic philosophies, breath holds the secret to the highest bliss? Breathing is the dominant factor in the practice of yoga and, if controlled effectively, can have a powerful calming effect.”


She said that our breath is our essence. The Chinese know it as qi, the ‘life force’ or ‘energy flow.’ Hindu sages encapsulate the universal life force as ‘Om’—the sound of all that is.


In fact, the word spirit comes from the Latin spiritus, which is a translation of the Green pneuma, meaning 'breath.' Both physically and spiritually, breath represents life.


“Practice more conscious slow breathing, Mister Bob. Beautiful breathing is long, slow, deep nasal breathing. Whatever you are doing and wherever you are, I think you will enjoy a more calming stillness and better control of your emotions if you become more aware of your breathing and learn to control it better. When you control your breathing, you control your mind. Be like a dolphin — unlike humans, they breathe consciously, you know.”


Bob appeared rather confounded following Lua’s impromptu mini-sermon on the simple, mindless act of breathing.


“Be like a dolphin, huh? I’ll have to think about that a bit. You did just kinda take my breath away for a minute there, Lua.”


We continued our lunch with a discussion about what was left on the day’s to-do list. Perhaps I was more sensitized to notice, following the conversation, but it sure seemed like Bob was taking longer and deeper breaths when he wasn’t doing the talking.


In any case, he appeared more relaxed by the time we finished lunch and got up to resume knocking off our long checklist of tasks for the day.


I made a mental note to remind Bob of ‘conscious breathing’ whenever I might catch him alone over the next several days at sea.


I’d just nag him with a simple motto that would surely annoy him to no end, to my great delight:


‘Be the dolphin, Bob … BE THE DOLPHIN!


Chef Lua

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